Last week’s Undeniable Session with leadership coach Heidi Garside did not come to play. Watch the replay here.

We weren’t talking about “being better humans” or “leading with heart” or any other LinkedIn poster quote. We were talking about the boring, brutal truth of how organizations actually decide your fate:

And they’re making promotion decisions off that.

Here’s the quick-and-dirty recap so you can use it this week, not “someday when things calm down” (they won’t).

You intend to…

Adorable.

But if your pattern is…

Your organization is not seeing “caring and committed.”

They’re seeing:

They’re not rewarding what you meant to do. They’re rewarding what you keep doing on repeat, even when you swear “this week will be different.”

From our conversation with Heidi, three greatest hits showed up over and over:

1. The Swiss Army Knife

“It’s fine, I’ll just handle it.”

You plug every hole, catch every ball, save every project. You’re indispensable… and also low-key stuck. They can’t picture you not doing the work, so they don’t picture you at the next level.

2. The Consensus Collector

“What does everyone else think?”

You’re beloved. People feel safe around you. Great. But behind closed doors, the whisper is: “Lovely. Smart. Just not the one to drive big calls.”

3. The Heroic Perfectionist

“If my name’s on it, it has to be flawless.”

You save the day. A lot. You also create bottlenecks, burnout, and a team that waits for you to fix everything because… you always do.

None of this makes you a bad leader. It just creates a patterned reputation you may not want, in rooms you’re not invited into.

Instead of lying awake at 2am replaying meetings and diagnosing yourself, use Heidi’s Leadership Pattern Snapshot quiz. It’s built to:

It’s 10 questions. About 5–7 minutes. Faster than your next doomscroll and infinitely more useful.

👉 Take it here: Leadership Pattern Snapshot on Heidi’s site, Think Hard Solutions.

Here’s why this matters before your next interview: When you can talk about your pattern out loud, you change the story in rooms you’re not in. Instead of some bland “I’m collaborative but also decisive” nonsense, you get to say:

“My leadership style is high ownership and high speed. Earlier in my career that meant I over-functioned and became the ‘Swiss Army knife.’ Over the last few years, I’ve shifted that: now I build systems and coach my team so we still move fast, but I’m not the bottleneck or the hero every time.”

Self-aware. Pattern-aware. Future-focused. That’s the kind of answer that makes a hiring manager sit up a little straighter.

Organizations don’t reward intentions. They reward patterns.

Your job is to make sure yours match the leader you’re becoming, not the frazzled version of you just trying to survive another week of back-to-back meetings and emergency “quick asks.”

If your idea of “rest” is lying on the couch doom-scrolling while your brain quietly rebuilds Q1… you need this session.

“The Power of the Pause: Strategic Reflection to Close a Year and Enter the Next” with Dr. Alessandra Wall, Ph.D. – Executive Coach, Speaker, Founder of Noteworthy

This is not a cozy vision-board party. It’s a strategic reset for people who are tired of calling burnout “busy season.” We’ll dig into:

Thursday, December 18 at 11am CT and come pause like you actually mean it. Registration required.

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